Responce to Cause Essay (Assignment)

After reading the cause essay on the reasons love can fail I thought on past relationships somewhat and I really can agree on the three factors the author of the essay mentioned, dishonesty, fear, and selfishness. There are other factors in unique situations to others ofcourse, but these three seem to fit most break-ups that have happened to me and I have heard of from other friends. I tend to be a mix of a realist and a romantic. Realist in the sense of believing that love can and usually does hurt, but it obviously doesn't always hurt, look at couples that have been married for 50 years plus and are still happy. Romantic in the sense that even with the risk and likely hood of pain in the end of relationships that they should still be given 100% of who you are because what if the relationship you are in is "the one" as some call it. I am also a firm believer that if your true un-restrained self is not given to the relationship then it can not be fully enjoyed. Now from self experience I know it is much easier said than done to just throw past hurt aside and try to forget the times you may have been betrayed or crushed. I also know though from self experience that paranoia, what the cause author called fear, is a destroyer of relationships. I have been accused of cheating previously when I would never think of cheating on someone in my life even if I believed they deserve it I would sooner breakup with them and go to someone else than cheat on them, both because I know what it is like and it goes against my morals. All in all I agree with the three key reasons the author gave, but don't agree that it always ends in heartbreak.